Disclosure: This is a sponsored post on behalf of Smile Makers, but all opinions expressed here are mine.
It wasn’t that long ago that I lived under her roof and followed her rules as diligently as one could. I often forgot the one about talking back or putting the clean laundry in the drawer folded nicely not shoved in with a force that required me sitting on the floor and using my legs to push the drawer into submission.
We would sit at the counter as children, it was filled with the five food groups laid out with care. The aroma of heaped oatmeal mixed with the citrus of fresh squeezed orange juice carefully poured out of the plastic bottle. The table was clean without a crumb. I would remember how hard this task was in years to come when my children were at the counter waiting for breakfast to be served. I would wonder how the crumbs didn’t appear how the orange juice didn’t splash on her counter. How her glasses sparkled, and mine had spots.
I would think to myself what else didn’t she tell me about being a mom or about being a woman.
I know I had learned all the right lessons as a mom when I could end a supermarket tantrum with the zeal of a WWF referee. I knew I understood the job when my children received awards in school for behavior, academics, and attendance. I understood my role when I gave up my shoe habit to pay for theirs, but I knew there was something missing still from her coursework.
What my mother didn’t tell me is how to take care of myself. How to make sure I was happy and satisfied with life as a woman.
She told me about the birds and the bees, but she did not share the tool that can increase self -confidence, release stress, elevate mood, improve your sex-life. Yes, moms have those as well and keep one of your most important parts strong and healthy.
She didn’t tell me about the Smile Makers, and I feel cheated. I mean how does one learn about these things. It isn’t like her husband will tell her. Her best girlfriend will only admit to this powerful device when the wine has loosened her lips to the truth of all that is magical.
You see my mom didn’t tell me to put myself first so that I could be all things to everyone. She didn’t tell me that pleasure can be self-created. She didn’t tell me that sex is okay and empowering with the right person and also fun with the wrong person. She didn’t tell me that it was okay to talk about sex and the tools to make it more pleasurable because she was not taught that women have the power to be in charge of their own destiny.
I forgive you mom since you taught me so much but I hope to end the cycle and talk openly to other woman about the joys of the Smile Makers. They call it that for a reason.
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