I heard someone recently say “It’s good to be different”. Those words have rolled around in my head since then leaving me to wonder what is “different” or rather what is “normal”? More importantly who determines which is which? We all have the notion that we are normal, regular people but how do we know for sure?Continue reading
Love is in the air. Valentine’s Day is approaching and there are “signs” of love everywhere. Heart shaped boxes of chocolate line store shelves next to mounds of stuffed animals and dozens of roses will cost you a small fortune. Commercials for jewelry stores claim that every kiss begins with them or every love story starts with diamonds, fine gems, fancy food and romantic strolls in the moonlight. Love, according to much of society, is that roller coaster butterfly in the belly whirlwind breathless fireworks feeling that you get when the one of your dreams walks through the door carrying flowers, candy or some other material gift that makes your knees weak and sweeps you off of your feet carrying you off into the sunset. And while, I have had a moment or two like that in my life, I believe that love is a much deeper more meaningful less tangible element of life.
According to the dictionary love is “to feel tender affection for somebody or for something such as a place, an ideal, or an animal. To feel desire, to feel romantic and longing for somebody.” Love, in my opinion, can be defined in many different ways. I decided to search for love quotes from various sources. According to a few cute three year olds I know, love is pretty special. Having parents to take care of them, make them food, play with them and ride bikes with them is love. For a three year old love is quite simple. It’s only when we get older love becomes a complicated affair that at times can bring us to our knees and make our hearts feel as if it’s broken into pieces. Wanting to explore what older, more seasoned folks had to say about love I posed the question to my social media friends and family; “what is love?” Surprisingly (or not) no one said anything close to the dictionary definition. What I found interesting in the many responses I received was that depending on the age or stage of life a particular individual is in their answer reflected as much. For example, someone going through difficulties in their marriage expressed frustration toward love. For him, love has been a difficult challenge; love is hard. For a few newly engaged twenty-somethings love is magical, powerful and wonderful, while words like unscripted, challenging, tough and time consuming came from a handful of thirty-somethings who along with a bit more experience and a handful of kids running amuck see love differently. Skip ahead a generation or two and the more mature, married most of their lives older folks shared that love is a gift, a blessing worth the work. My husband, David, the love of my life says “love cannot be measured or compared; it’s unique.” “Imagine”, he says “what our world would look like if we all loved the same”. For David, love is a unique, individual experience that cannot be defined by anyone other than himself; it may be nothing out of the ordinary one day and something extraordinary the next.
I believe that it is the simple things in life that produce the deepest and purest form of love that anyone can experience. It is when we allow ourselves to be loved in this way that we find our greatest comfort and joy. Love does not have to be complicated, sophisticated or exaggerated. Love comes from a place deep within our soul that when shared with others gives us a sense of safety, security and belonging. Love does not cost anything but is worth more than anything money could buy. Love is that sense of being connected to someone completely allowing ourselves to be intimate, real and open without hesitation or reservation.
But what about love that is not romantic in nature? How do we define love for our friends, family, neighbors, strangers even? This love, I believe is a necessary element of life that when lived to its fullest enhances our life experience. Being blessed with a great inner circle of family and friends who share a deep love for one another I find that life is sweeter because of that love experience. With great distance between some of us the love we have for one another keeps us connected. Being separated for extended periods of time is difficult, however, taking time to send messages, make phone calls and send cards in the mail keeps us connected until we are able to see one another. Living a life of love I believe is different than being “in love” with someone. Taking time to love, making an effort to love and extending love to the world around us requires action; not just emotion.
Knowing that living a life of love requires work I was grateful for a love quote by a close friend who summed it up beautifully stating that “Love is a verb, an action word. It’s the very fuel that makes life so special. It’s that special ingredient that makes anything better. They always tell you that grandma’s recipe for anything always included love, which makes it taste even better.” Surrounding ourselves with those who want to and are willing to share our life journey I believe is a key ingredient in living a life filled with love. My faith tells me that we are created to live in community loving one another as we love ourselves and by living accordingly love becomes the verb, the action word that will make life better. It’s kind of like the icing on a cake; Love makes life sweeter.
I encourage you to live a life of love; put your love into action. Love is more than a feeling. Love is life; life is love.
I am proud to introduce a new column to Madame Deals! I think we all need a touch point a place we can go to be inspired. Karla is my children’s teacher, a good friend, and a person with a heart of gold. I hope that her words will inspire you to do more. We are only as good as the people we surround ourselves with. It is important to listen with your heart and proceed with your eyes open. Enjoy!
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Unconditional Love…Lessons from Sweetie
Have you ever met someone so full of grace and selfless love that in spite of their own hardships or physical discomforts they think of others first? Someone who lives life based on faith and love of their Creator not for recognition but because it’s in their soul? It’s a rare and beautiful gift to know someone like this; my friend Sweetie (Carole) is that person; a gift to so many.Continue reading
Taking Chances; Accepting Challenges and Reaping Rewards
A little over four years ago I took the chance and began writing “Karla’s Korner”. A year into the project I was asked to review movies for Lifetime. I had always loved Lifetime movies and jumped at the opportunity to review them and share my thoughts. I enjoyed my little writing job; it became quite therapeutic for me. Two years had passed and an email appeared offering me a “spot” on Lifetime Moms as a contributor. Shocked and surprised I gladly accepted the offer.Continue reading
On Being Beautiful…..
Sophia Loren once said “Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical”
In today’s society it seems that beauty, or the idea of beauty is everywhere. The most beautiful people show up in advertisements for everything from hair care products to antacids. It’s as if one’s physical beauty is their most important asset. As someone who has struggled with self-acceptance my entire life, I have never felt beautiful; until now.Continue reading
Here’s the story behind my positive quotes for the day. Last week started off so full of hope and joy with Christmas around the corner, my house was full of Holiday Cheer. Tuesday started off with a bang and a long list of things to do before the day ended. All my good plans came to a screeching halt, when I checked my checking account. I know you might be wondering why I was checking my account on Christmas Eve with so much to do but truth is I have had my information stolen in the past and make it a habit to watch all my accounts. There are services such as LifeLock that help you with that.
My day suddenly came to a halt when I noticed a payment for $105 that was not mine or my husbands. With a few phone calls it was revealed that my brother in law had used our checking account to pay his storage unit payment. All visions of a White and Happy Christmas fled from my head and instead it was filled with anger, resentment and panic. There was no beauty in burnt cookies of my mental images.
Several phone calls, texts and reassurance from my friend that I could get it reversed left me in somber spirits but I decided that I needed to put “My Big Girl Panties” on and bake with my daughter as promised. On our list was Apple Pie, Pumpkin Pie and Chocolate Chip Cookies. 20 minutes into our baking session, my daughter decided she wanted to watch cartoons. Seeing as we were baking at her request she was denied and we continued working. Our first batch of cookies ended up burnt because we lost track of time and I found myself on the edge of tears. She reassured me Santa only needed 5 and we had 2 dozen more to go in the oven. If she could find the beauty in burnt cookies, why couldn’t I?
The baking was finally finished and my daughter in bed for the night. Stockings were stuffed but I still couldn’t see any of the beauty in burnt cookies of the day. As I got ready for bed, my thoughts went to what we had accomplished that day. The 6 months worth of filing I had managed to file away in just 15 minutes because I was looking for papers to deal with checking account issue, the 3 dozen cookies that were delicious and NOT burnt, and 2 tasty pies created with love ready for Christmas dinner.
I finally found the Beauty in Burnt Cookies. This positive quotes for the day applies to so much of our lives when we only look at the bad side of things, we miss out on the beautiful pieces and situation that emerge. As you begin your New Year, make sure that you look for the Beauty in Burnt Cookies in your day to day activities. You never know what you are going to find.
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