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January 22, 2017

How Do You Know He Is The One

How Do You Know He Is The One


How Do You Know He Is The One

   I woke up for no good reason this morning. The children weren’t up, creating destruction a car hasn’t driven by with blaring music. The house wasn’t echoing it age. I just got up and thought of something. The kind of thought that wakes you from your deepest sleep that your mind and body crave with such importance that you awake. I had clarity in the question that I had been rolling over and over again in mind for days.
I was struggling with an anniversary gift for my husband. It is the week of our 20th anniversary of dating. I couldn’t think of a thing that would encompass the significance he has in my life.
  I tried hard. I scrolled online for hours. I tried to listen to see if he would give me a hint as to what he needed or wanted but yet four days into our anniversary week I had nothing even though I am known for giving good advice.
The answer I needed washed over me like the first wave when the tide joins the beach. I realized I knew exactly what he needed.
how to know if he is the one
  He is the same person I met in the crowded house in Gainesville, Florida with the mismatched furniture that only three males could combine into a single room all whose purpose was to watch tv. The guy who turned the channel on the TV and took my breath away. That moment I knew my life change. I wasn’t sure how or when but after speaking with you all night I knew we would always be friends.
You were the guy who didn’t have “game” who nervously asked me if I smoked instead of my name. The guy who offered me a drink after I noted several times I do not drink and drive. The gentleman who asked me to dance when dancing wasn’t his thing. The guy that stepped on my steel toe boots more than he stepped with the beat. The guy whose infectious laugh moved me more than the song could have. The guy that looked at me and still looks at me like no one or nothing else matters.
I chose you not because my dating pool was empty or you were the last one standing. I chose you not because it was easy to have a boyfriend or husband that was hours away at times and countries away other days, weeks, or months. I chose you not because you empty the dishwasher and do the laundry both chores I despise. Not because you are kind, gentle, smart, and funny.
I chose you not because there was and will never be a choice.
I choose you ever night before bed and every moment in between. I choose you and each morning as the sun peaks up through the clouds and the breakfast you are cooking for the children which you insist is your favorite part of the day saturates the air with citrus and bacon. I choose you.
  You see it is the easiest decision I make all day certainly easier than which pants will fit or what shirt goes with those shoes. It is the knowledge I have of us or what we have accomplished together and apart that has makes my decision an easy one.
It is simple there isn’t anyone else since I met you that I think about. I can’t go a day without talking to you without sharing my joys, sorrows, triumphs and tragedies without being part of your story, our story.
I chose you 20 years ago, and I chose you 20 seconds ago, and I will choose you each second that passes in both good times and bad.
I love you more than words can distinguish, more than time could diminish, and more than cupcakes, lipstick, purses, books, baths, fancy trips combined.
I love you more than anyone could offer for you.
I have never met and I am sure I will never meet someone like you again.
Thank you, for being the best friend, dad, and husband and man I could have never dreamed of.
Thank you, for the best gift anyone could ever give.
Thank you, for loving me for who I am.
If you want to read why Mat chose me this is a post on why our marriage works.  The secrets to a happy marriage.

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How Do You Know He Is The One

how do you know he is the one

August 12, 2016

The 7 Words That Rescue My Marriage Everyday

The 7 Words That Rescue My Marriage Everyday

The Seven Words That Rescue My Marriage Everyday

I didn’t realize our marriage was in trouble or that I was in trouble. I loved him and he loved me, but somewhere under all the work and responsibility, we lost our plan.

I got everything done. I checked each task off the list. I was breathing, but I wasn’t living. I was knee deep in Cheerios ground into the rug and fingerprints and face plants on the glass. I was on calls or on the computer or at some child’s activity. I was many things, but what I wasn’t was present.

If you could see inside our home, you would see this:Continue reading

April 3, 2016

Saving Our Marriage

Saving Our Marriage

Marriage Quotes

5 Things I Fixed In My Marriage

Dear Friends,

I was thinking being the Real Advice Gal is a big job. It is my job to lay it out on the table and be truthful in what I feel, think, and have experienced in my life both current and past events. I decided that honesty is the best policy. I love my husband, but I felt like I wasn’t in love with my husband. I kind of felt like I was going through the motions of being a partner but I wasn’t feeling much like a wife. That really bothered me. I didn’t get married to be someone’s sidekick. I really wanted to figure out why I wasn’t so into to my husband. You see he is pretty perfect, a great dad, adores me, does the chores, cooks, has a job, and is a nice guy.Continue reading

Karla’s Korner: Degrees of Love

Karla’s Korner: Degrees of Love

Karla's Korner: Degrees of Love

Degrees of Love …

F. Scott Fitzgerald wrote “There are all kinds of love in this world, but never the same love twice”. Often love is thought of as romantic, filled with passion, physical desires, excitement and lavishness when it, is more often rather than not found in the ordinary often mundane-ness of life. The little things done in the name of what I call “lower case” love make up the big things in “capital letter” Love. When reflecting on the many great and not so great loves I’ve witnessed, shared and hoped for in my own life, Fitzgerald’s words ring true. Each person, each relationship cultivates within us the potential for great love, the opportunity to fill our souls, bring joy and not only receive but give meaningful, purposeful love to others. Love can be measured in degrees I think.Continue reading

Karla’s Korner: Defining Love

Karla’s Korner: Defining Love

Karla's Korner: Defining Love

Defining Love…

It’s February, the proverbial month of love and I find it almost obligatory to share my thoughts on what I believe love is; or what love is not. The word love is defined as a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties. This little four letter word has a wide variety of meanings and is commonly used in everyday language as a means of affection. Love I believe is a multi-faceted, ever changing, a push and pull kind of adventure that goes beyond romance. Love is in fact the root of life, the driving force behind friendships, those friendships that bring order and chaos to our lives; those friendships that along with romantic relationships define who we are, determine who we become and direct us on our life journey.Continue reading

October 21, 2015

Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice: List of Demands

Relationship Advice

Hi, Friends-

Over the past couple of weeks, we have had a theme to our chats, and it has been conscience of our choices and the impact they have on others. I do think it is important to think about others, but it is important to take care of yourself. I am known for being demanding. I used to think that was a bad thing but then if you look at what I demand it is really what everyone should demand of the people around them. I know demand has a negative connotation but in reality it is a standard that you set for yourself and then your expectations of others is either met or exceeded. The dreaded list of my demands:Continue reading

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