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January 22, 2017

How Do You Know He Is The One

How Do You Know He Is The One


How Do You Know He Is The One

   I woke up for no good reason this morning. The children weren’t up, creating destruction a car hasn’t driven by with blaring music. The house wasn’t echoing it age. I just got up and thought of something. The kind of thought that wakes you from your deepest sleep that your mind and body crave with such importance that you awake. I had clarity in the question that I had been rolling over and over again in mind for days.
I was struggling with an anniversary gift for my husband. It is the week of our 20th anniversary of dating. I couldn’t think of a thing that would encompass the significance he has in my life.
  I tried hard. I scrolled online for hours. I tried to listen to see if he would give me a hint as to what he needed or wanted but yet four days into our anniversary week I had nothing even though I am known for giving good advice.
The answer I needed washed over me like the first wave when the tide joins the beach. I realized I knew exactly what he needed.
how to know if he is the one
  He is the same person I met in the crowded house in Gainesville, Florida with the mismatched furniture that only three males could combine into a single room all whose purpose was to watch tv. The guy who turned the channel on the TV and took my breath away. That moment I knew my life change. I wasn’t sure how or when but after speaking with you all night I knew we would always be friends.
You were the guy who didn’t have “game” who nervously asked me if I smoked instead of my name. The guy who offered me a drink after I noted several times I do not drink and drive. The gentleman who asked me to dance when dancing wasn’t his thing. The guy that stepped on my steel toe boots more than he stepped with the beat. The guy whose infectious laugh moved me more than the song could have. The guy that looked at me and still looks at me like no one or nothing else matters.
I chose you not because my dating pool was empty or you were the last one standing. I chose you not because it was easy to have a boyfriend or husband that was hours away at times and countries away other days, weeks, or months. I chose you not because you empty the dishwasher and do the laundry both chores I despise. Not because you are kind, gentle, smart, and funny.
I chose you not because there was and will never be a choice.
I choose you ever night before bed and every moment in between. I choose you and each morning as the sun peaks up through the clouds and the breakfast you are cooking for the children which you insist is your favorite part of the day saturates the air with citrus and bacon. I choose you.
  You see it is the easiest decision I make all day certainly easier than which pants will fit or what shirt goes with those shoes. It is the knowledge I have of us or what we have accomplished together and apart that has makes my decision an easy one.
It is simple there isn’t anyone else since I met you that I think about. I can’t go a day without talking to you without sharing my joys, sorrows, triumphs and tragedies without being part of your story, our story.
I chose you 20 years ago, and I chose you 20 seconds ago, and I will choose you each second that passes in both good times and bad.
I love you more than words can distinguish, more than time could diminish, and more than cupcakes, lipstick, purses, books, baths, fancy trips combined.
I love you more than anyone could offer for you.
I have never met and I am sure I will never meet someone like you again.
Thank you, for being the best friend, dad, and husband and man I could have never dreamed of.
Thank you, for the best gift anyone could ever give.
Thank you, for loving me for who I am.
If you want to read why Mat chose me this is a post on why our marriage works.  The secrets to a happy marriage.

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How Do You Know He Is The One

how do you know he is the one

August 12, 2016

The 7 Words That Rescue My Marriage Everyday

The 7 Words That Rescue My Marriage Everyday

The Seven Words That Rescue My Marriage Everyday

I didn’t realize our marriage was in trouble or that I was in trouble. I loved him and he loved me, but somewhere under all the work and responsibility, we lost our plan.

I got everything done. I checked each task off the list. I was breathing, but I wasn’t living. I was knee deep in Cheerios ground into the rug and fingerprints and face plants on the glass. I was on calls or on the computer or at some child’s activity. I was many things, but what I wasn’t was present.

If you could see inside our home, you would see this:Continue reading

Karla’s Korner: Adjust Your Sails

Karla’s Korner: Adjust Your Sails

Karla's Korner: Adjust Your Sails

Adjust Your Sails….

Elizabeth Edwards wrote, “She stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails”. Edwards was faced with more than her fair share of obstacles, life storms if you will and each time she chose to face the storms and figure out how to overcome them without losing herself in the process. Losing her son Wade at the age of 19 was just one of the life storms that could have destroyed her will to move on; to continue to live a purposeful life. Edwards found herself adjusting the sails of her life boat on more than one occasion but each time she was not only able to see herself through the storm but to become a better person not only for herself but for her family and those close to her. When faced with breast cancer in 2004 she found herself adjusting her sails toward a positive attitude attempting to beat the cancer. Unfortunately, in 2010 Edwards lost her battle with breast cancer but always remained gracious, hopeful and positive. Continue reading

Karla’s Korner: The Roots of Life

Karla’s Korner: The Roots of Life

Karla's Korner: The Roots of Life

The Roots of Life….

So there I sat alone in a secluded booth at Ruby Tuesday’s waiting for my dinner companions to arrive. I was a bit nervous as I had not seen them in quite a while. Sipping tea and scanning through social media to pass the time I wondered why it was that I was so out of sorts. After all I have known these two men my whole life. Glancing toward the door as they arrive I wave to catch their attention greeting them as they sit down across from me. These men are my brothers; one three years older the other three years younger. At first the conversation was a bit strained just as our relationship has been for quite some time. But somehow the differences and the distance we had between us began to fade and I realized that I had missed them and I believe they had missed me too. The reason behind our visit didn’t matter as much as the fact they had agreed to drive 40 miles to meet me because you see it was because of me that our lives had become disconnected. The distance between us was a result of my own pride and as my grandfather would say bull headed ways, but in the midst of my mistakes and self-inflicted troubles I found it necessary to swallow my pride and reach out and in turn they reached back.Continue reading

April 3, 2016

Saving Our Marriage

Saving Our Marriage

Marriage Quotes

5 Things I Fixed In My Marriage

Dear Friends,

I was thinking being the Real Advice Gal is a big job. It is my job to lay it out on the table and be truthful in what I feel, think, and have experienced in my life both current and past events. I decided that honesty is the best policy. I love my husband, but I felt like I wasn’t in love with my husband. I kind of felt like I was going through the motions of being a partner but I wasn’t feeling much like a wife. That really bothered me. I didn’t get married to be someone’s sidekick. I really wanted to figure out why I wasn’t so into to my husband. You see he is pretty perfect, a great dad, adores me, does the chores, cooks, has a job, and is a nice guy.Continue reading

Karla’s Korner – JUMP: Being The Best You Possible

Karla’s Korner – JUMP: Being The Best You Possible

Life isn’t about reaching our end destination; it’s about enjoying the journey.

JUMP: Being The Best You Possible

Television personality Steve Harvey recently shared his thoughts about life and the importance of living it to the fullest. In his viral video, Harvey says that every successful person in this world has jumped. You cannot just exist in this life, says Harvey, you must jump into life, embracing the gift you possess and using it to achieve success and more importantly happiness.Continue reading

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