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Ask a Nurse: A Mother’s Secret Shame

Pamela is an RN, MSN/Ed.

Pamela is a mother of 6 amazing children ages 11 to 24. She is a nurse educator and loves to travel overseas to work in medical clinics and teach health-related topics to schools and communities. She has been married to her best friend, Steve, for 29 years. She has many different interests including reading, writing (NOT arithmetic!), baking, teaching, and spending time with her family. She lives in central Pennsylvania with her husband and two youngest daughters.


A Mother’s Secret Shame

What is your idea of a perfect mother? Do you have a list in your head that you try to live up to? Here is my list.

A perfect mother:

*never yells

*keeps a clean house all the time

*raises kids who love God, are smart, talented and beautiful

*has an amazing sense of design and decorates the house to look like one in a magazine

*never over spends and finds the best deals

*grows her own food, sews all the clothes, makes gorgeous blankets, slipcovers and
curtains

*is an excellent cook-all the time

*has an amazing figure and beautiful face

*always finds time for everyone

I never even come close to living up to that list! I have found over the years that women I admire and think have it all together feel just like me. They feel they are missing the mark, too. With all this pressure to succeed, many women hide a shameful secret: they are living with sadness, anxiety and depression much of the time. Women feel that telling anyone they struggle with depression is a sign of failure. Instead of getting help, many women try to cope and keep their depression a secret. They smile when they feel like screaming, volunteer for everything because they can’t say no; drag themselves through the day when they have been awake most of the night crying. Many mothers are dealing with true clinical depression. If you are sad most of the time, have trouble sleeping (too much, too little, and early morning awakening), eat too much or too little, don’t enjoy things you used to, or cry for no reason, you may be in clinical depression. If you think about suicide and have a plan, call the suicide hotline NOW (1-800-273-8255, in the US)! You can also call 911 if you are serious about hurting yourself.

Call your family doctor and make an appointment if you feel you are depressed. If you can’t get the nerve to call, ask a friend, relative, or your husband to call for you! There is no shame in being depressed! It is a clinical illness. If you had any other illness, you would probably have no problem treating it. There is a chemical imbalance in your brain when you have depression. It runs in families. It can occur after certain life altering situations. Counseling can help you find better coping strategies, help you recognize warning signs, and help you deal with deeply rooted anxieties. Medicine can help you regulate the brain chemicals that are causing your symptoms.

You may be surprised to know how many people you think are handling life so beautifully are dealing with (or have dealt with) depression. Trust someone enough to let them in, let them know the secret you think is so shameful. Sometimes, opening the door and letting the sunshine in makes those secrets less powerful.

If you can’t imagine how it feels to be seriously depressed, read this poem I wrote one time when I felt too sad to even journal about it.

Depression is a thief

coming quietly in the darkness.

Stealing my memories,

My joy.

Stealing time…so many hours wasted

Lying still,

Eyes open,

Too empty to cry.

I am drained of all that is me,

What is left is a fragile shell

Ready to crumble.

Don’t touch me.

Copy write p.jablonski

Do I still deal with depression? Well, yes, although I am getting better at recognizing the patterns and symptoms that signify a downward spin. I am open with my husband and children (and now the whole world, I guess!). They sometimes see the patterns before I do. They know that sometimes they need to drag me to go out with them, even to the grocery store when I am beginning to sink. They pray for me, hold me and encourage me when I am feeling sad. I am getting better about calling my doctor when I notice symptoms returning or worsening. I have asked a few people to help me be accountable to them, to tell them when I am feeling really sad. I realize the fact that depression is an illness, and I may need medicine for my entire life. I am more myself, more creative, and more forgiving of myself and others these days. I still grieve for the time lost, time I could have been enjoying motherhood when my children were younger. I pray that I can use my time now to enjoy every moment I have with my family and friends. I want to embrace every day God gives me, and live my life with joy and purpose.

I want to be alive! Do you?

Thank you for sharing this intimate peek into my life with me. If you or someone you love is depressed, here are some resources for you:

www.recoveryforwomen.co/Depression

www.billygraham.org/HelpForDepression (faith based)

Your family doctor

Your pastor, priest, or rabbi

Please write to me, I’d love to hear from you! I can be reached at [email protected]

Be Well,

Pam

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February 17, 2012

Fashion Friday: Buy then search

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I love Fashion but I hate paying tons of money to look great. I believe you need two things the knowledge of what looks good on you and the skill to find it for less. I encourage you to get rid of all the items in your closet that you do not wear. They cloud up your options to make really great outfits because you can’t see your clothes! If they are in good condition sell the at a consignment store or a place like Plato’s closet, or host a clothing swap. Clothing swaps are a blast!

Amee

I have a crazy habit. I am addicted to shoes and clothes. I love designer clothing. I unfortunately do not have a wallet that matches my habit. I also live with in my budget. I only charge what I can pay off that week. I found these amazing boots. They are KATE SPADE. I found them  at Marshals for $79.99. Yikes! That is 1/3 of their retail cost but out of my budget. I had $65 left of my holiday money from my husband. We each get $100 for holiday gifts. I bought the boots anyway. I over spent by $20. This was fine because I have a $20 all about me budget each week so I was going to apply that.

   I decided I need a new shirt to go with the boots so I went to work to find a deal. I scoured the internet until I found them on eBay. I bought them with shipping for $48 and I returned the $79.99 ones. I was under budget and my feet just love Kate Spade! The moral of the story is do not put on the item and go home and research to see if you can get the item for less. I can’t wait to find my shirt with the money I saved!

Ask a Nurse: Mirror Mirror on the Wall

Pamela is an RN, MSN/Ed.

Pamela is a mother of 6 amazing children ages 11 to 24. She is a nurse educator and loves to travel overseas to work in medical clinics and teach health-related topics to schools and communities. She has been married to her best friend, Steve, for 29 years. She has many different interests including reading, writing (NOT arithmetic!), baking, teaching, and spending time with her family. She lives in central Pennsylvania with her husband and two youngest daughters.

Mirror, mirror on the wall

Nicole was only ten when she began dieting. She lost her baby fat and became quite thin. She was afraid of gaining any weight, even as her body grew taller. She counted calories at every meal and labeled food, “good” or “bad.”

Katie began calling herself “fat” at 6 years of age…her mother didn’t contradict her.

Alyssa stopped eating at school in 7th grade. She “forgot” to eat breakfast, never ate lunch at school, and usually ate just a sandwich for dinner. She felt weak and dizzy, and fainted at school.

Gabby exercised every spare minute she could. She “ate” breakfast before her family got up, which consisted of pouring a splash of milk in a cereal bowl and dropping a few pieces of cereal in the bowl. She skipped lunch, and hid her dinner in a napkin or fed it to the dog under the table. If her parents caught her, she cried and told them they were trying to make
her fat…she was 11.

  • 8,000,000 or more people in the United States have an eating disorder.
  • 90% are women.
  • Eating disorders usually start in the teens but may begin as early as age 8.

Source: National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders

This problem does not seem to be going away, and no wonder, with our beauty-obsessed culture! I read an article a few years ago, where a gorgeous fashion model was looking at a magazine cover, and wished she was that beautiful…only to look closer and realize it was her! Her image was so airbrushed and photo shopped that she didn’t recognize herself!

I have some tips for parents to help encourage a healthy body image in their children.

1. Focus on character, not appearance. Compliment your child on their work ethic, good study habits and being kind to siblings. If all they get praised for is how pretty or handsome they are, they will feel pressure to “be beautiful” in order to keep receiving that praise.

2. Never tell a child they are fat (or stupid, or clumsy, etc.)! Focus on the positive, and lead and model a healthy lifestyle.

3. Do not stop hugging, kissing and cuddling with your child when they begin to go through puberty. This sends a message that their physical changes are wrong and unappealing. My husband and I try to hug and kiss our teen and young adult children when we greet them, when we say good-bye, before bed, and whenever they seem to need it. As another benefit, we see that they do not seem starved for physical touch, which causes many tween and teens to seek out affection in relationships before they are mature enough to handle them.

4. Leave your insecurities at the door! Do not complain to your children how much weight you need to lose, how awful you feel you look, etc. If you model a healthy self-image, your child will likely have one, too.

5. Find teachable moments. My 12 year old and I saw a photo on the internet of a young girl’s skeletal back. I used this moment to bring up eating disorders and how people who starve themselves are also starving their heart muscle, which can cause cardiac arrest in even young teens. We talked about how sad it was that some girls feel that they are not beautiful unless they are boney and underweight.

Keep the lines of communication open and your child will find that they can share what is on their mind. You may even have a chance to be a listening ear for other teens and be a source of encouragement to them.

The examples I gave in the beginning of this article are all true, I just changed the names.

Oh, and I was “Gabby.”

Be Well,

Pam

Have a question or topic you want me to address? Write me at [email protected] , I would love to hear from you!

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Ask a Nurse: Don’t forget your mittens!

Ask a Nurse: Don’t forget your mittens!

mittens

Pamela is an RN, MSN/Ed.

Pamela is a mother of 6 amazing children ages 11 to 24. She is a nurse educator and loves to travel overseas to work in medical clinics and teach health-related topics to schools and communities. She has been married to her best friend, Steve, for 29 years. She has many different interests including reading, writing (NOT arithmetic!), baking, teaching, and spending time with her family. She lives in central Pennsylvania with her husband and two youngest daughters.

 

Don’t forget your mittens!

Well, folks, it is officially winter! I hope you are staying warm. When I am tempted to complain about how cold it is, I think about my son who lives in Northwest Alaska….while I am shivering in wind-chill’s of 0 or -9, he is braving wind-chill’s of -69! Brrrrrr! Today, I want to talk to you about cold weather safety, especially in children.

Have you ever driven past a school bus-stop on a very cold and windy morning? Do you notice how even very young children are not dressed appropriately for the weather?

I can’t begin to tell you how often I had kids come to my school nurse office shaking and shivering from the cold after waiting for the bus for 20 minutes in frigid weather!

First of all, don’t assume the school bus will always be on time! Sometimes kids would be waiting for an hour until someone drove by and told them there was a school delay! Dress your child for the weather. What if the bus broke down and it took a long time to get a new one? Kids should wear warm coats, mittens, hats, and be zipped up while waiting for the bus or playing outside. Children are not able to adjust to temperature changes as well as adults. Their body mass is also smaller, and they will get cold quicker than most adults.

On very cold mornings, try giving your child a warm breakfast such as hot cereal or eggs. Make sure they have warm, dry socks on and warm shoes or boots. Watch to see that they are picked up by the bus on time, bring them inside to wait or take them to the bus stop in your warm car to wait. Make your kids come inside to warm up after playing outside in very cold weather. Sometimes, 20 minutes is long enough in cold and windy weather.

My kids loved to come inside to warm up with hot cocoa! They need to learn to come in when their clothing gets wet, too.

Hypothermia (cold body temperature) can occur more quickly in young children, elderly, and anyone exposed to cold for an extended period of time.

Signs of Hypothermia:

1. Shivering and exhaustion
2. Confusion
3. Memory loss
4. Slow speech
5. Slow body movements/clumsiness
6. Sleepiness

Treatments:

1. Bring the victim into a warm room, or shelter.
2. If possible, take their temperature. If it is below 95 degrees F, it is a medical
emergency-call 911!
3. If clothing is wet, remove it.
4. Wrap the person in warm blankets, skin to skin contact or electric blankets that are
warm, not hot.
5. Try to warm the body’s core first, trunk, armpits, groin, and neck.
6. If they are conscious, try to get them to sip warm liquids. Never try to give liquids to
an unconscious person!
7. Get medical help as soon as possible!

A person who has hypothermia may not appear to have a heartbeat or be breathing. In some cases, the heartbeat is too faint to detect. Never give up on a person who appears dead from the cold. At times, they can still be resuscitated.  Handle them gently, and provide CPR until help arrives or they respond. Continue to warm them while doing CPR.

Teach your children cold weather safety, signs of hypothermia, and what to do if they see someone who is showing these signs.

Winter play can be fun and exciting as long as you are aware of the hazards and how to prevent and treat them!

Have a great week! Go build a snowman with your kids!
Be well,

Pam

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February 3, 2012

Fashion Friday: The cocktail dress

calvin klein red dress

I love a good deal and I love fashion. I do not love spending a lot of money to look great. I have to admit I am a name brand junkie and with paid off credit cards I intend to stay fashionable on a frugal budget. I often wonder what kind of dress should I wear to a cocktail party. I want to stand out in a good way. I love colors. I decided this was the perfect dress for three reasons.

1) The color. It is in the jewel family and I will not drowned in a sea of black dresses

2) The details are subtle and classic.

3) The price. I got this dress at Plato’s closet for just $15.00. The brand is Calvin Klein I imagine it retailed for over $89.00.  I also had to provide my own belt just for fun which I did from goodwill at the high price of $1.00. The animal print heels were added for fun because I love my shoes.  I say you can have as many pairs of fun shoes as you want if you pay just $2.50 for nine west shoes.

I think I will look great and feel even better knowing I spent under $20.00 to look amazing! I love a good deal it just makes you look better.

What do you think? Hot or not?

Ask A Personal Trainer: Working out when Sick

Bio:  Julie R. is an ACE certified personal trainer. Her goal is to offer simple and effective advice to help inspire others to live an active and healthy life. She works and lives in Boston, MA with her husband and baby girl.

With flu season here, I often find clients get sick and fall off the workout wagon for weeks, and sometime months. Here are a few guidelines to prevent a cold or sickness from derailing your exercise goals.

According to the Mayo Clinic, a good rule of thumb is that if cold symptoms are “above the neck” (runny nose, nasal congestion, sneezing, etc), it is okay to continue your exercise routine. You may want to take your intensity down a notch, for example if you normally run, you could try jogging at a slower pace, or even walking.
If symptoms are “below the neck” (chest congestion, hacking cough, upset stomach), it is best to take a few days off. Exercise should also be avoided if you have a fever, extreme fatigue or widespread muscle aches.

The bottom line is you want to listen to your body. If it is telling you to take a break, do it. However, while you are resting you want to be sure to drink lots of fluids and eat a healthy diet. It is not an excuse to sit on the couch and eat chips. While you are resting you can plan out a few workouts for when you are feeling better. Start slow when getting back into your routine, this could mean just going for a 30 minute walk your first few days back. The key is to start moving as soon as you are feeling better, don’t let too much time go by, this is when people tend to lose their routines.

Stay healthy!

*Always consult your physician or health care provider before beginning any nutrition or exercise program.

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