Karla’s Korner: There Are No “Re-Do’s”
There Are No “Re-Do’s”
Country music group Rascal Flatts sings a song titled “Rewind” in which the subject of the song wishes he could rewind a particular night; a date that he wished had not ended so quickly. I’ve heard this song several times recently and found myself wondering if I could rewind certain life events would I. If the opportunity arose would I grab it? Once in a while I think it would be nice to go back to the little kid days of Barney, bubbles, bicycles and make-believe. Once in a while I miss being the mommy to my little kids when I was still cool, knew everything and was the center of their world. As tempting as it would be to go back and have a “do over” and “fix” all of the things I did wrong and soften the blows of the troubles and tough times, I am glad I can’t. And then one day I look across the dinner table at the big kids they’ve become, listening to them talk late into the night about school, their hopes and dreams or as they jokingly sling sarcasm at one another I am beyond grateful that we can’t go back. We must learn from the past; we must move forward and embrace the present.
Albert Einstein once said “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” When we enter into a new relationship, romantic or platonic we are taking a chance and sometimes that chance turns out to be a wonderful experience. Sometimes those relationships fall apart and we find ourselves forever changed. Learning from broken relationships I think helps us in developing new ones as we know what works and what doesn’t. Much like adult relationships we find ourselves forging through unfamiliar territory when we become parents. Babies don’t come with instruction manuals as new parents quickly discover. Whether we have one, two or more children we quickly find that each new little person brings about their own unique set of challenges and hopefully we are able to muddle through without too many mistakes or bad decisions, however, if we learn from those mistakes and bad decisions then I believe we become better parents, better friends, better people.
Some of the most important life lessons we will ever learn will be from the bad decisions and mistakes we have made. Experience comes from living, and in living we are able to understand and make adjustments for the mishaps. If we were able to rewind and re-do then there would be no opportunity for growth in wisdom or the rewards we obtain through the knowledge we gain when we go through the difficult stuff.
Author Richelle E. Goodrich wrote “Many times what we perceive as an error or failure is actually a gift. And eventually we find that lessons learned from that discouraging experience prove to be of great worth.” So would you re-wind if you could? Would you want to go back and change your mind, alter the path you’ve already travelled or are you thankful for experiences that have shaped you to be the person you are now? What I find wonderful about being where we are now is that we have the opportunity to continue to move forward and take the lessons from the past and create a future filled with endless possibilities. As I presented my big kids with their Easter baskets on Sunday memories of their little feet pouncing down the steps in the early morning anxious to see what “the bunny” had left filled my mind and heart. I love those memories, but the memories we made this Easter afternoon (they sleep longer these days) were just as sweet. Their baskets, well their baskets are no longer filled with candy and little kid trinkets. This year the big kids got big kid things that allowed us to make big kid memories.
I encourage you to embrace the mistakes, bad decisions and difficulties of the past as you move forward taking new life lessons with you. There is no time for a rewind on the boom box of life, only a “play” button. So push play and move on.
I think we all need a touch point a place we can go to be inspired. Karla is my children’s teacher, a good friend, and a person with a heart of gold. I hope that her words will inspire you to do more. We are only as good as the people we surround ourselves with. It is important to listen with your heart and proceed with your eyes open. Enjoy!
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