Monthly Archives: February 2012

February 28, 2012

Chutzpah: Dogs at work

Chutzpah. This is a word that is used often by myself because sometimes I just can’t believe what people do. I mean really! I thought it would be fun to share our Chutzpah moments. The only rules are no names of stores, people, or events. You may also not use inappropriate language. Leave a comment listing your favorite Chutzpah moment! I mean laughter is the best medicine.

chutzpah Or khutspe. Nerve, extreme arrogance, brazen presumption. In English, chutzpah often connotes courage or confidence, but among Yiddish speakers, it is not a compliment.

I love animals. I however do not like animals that are know biters. I recently went to a local hair salon. I saw a small dog and I really didn’t think much of the dog. That was until my child was having his hair cut and the salon owner explained my other child should not go near the dog since it bites. I kept thinking then pick up the dog and put her in the back until we leave. If you have a dog that is a known biter than it should not be in your place of business when clients are there. If you know your dog bites put a sign on the door. I would have never gone there and I will never go back. If you want to bring your dog to work make sure your dog should not be a danger to children.

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February 28, 2012

Crafting with Kids: Thinking Outside the Box

Meet Stephanie! She’s a 24 year old stay at home Mom, who couldn’t ask for a better blessing than to be home with her daughter!! Their favorite things to do together is working on art projects and they enjoy sharing them with people at Crafting with Bug!! In her free time she enjoys reading and scrapbooking!!

I have to admit, a couple weeks ago we ran out of construction paper and all I could think was “we don’t have paper how am I supposed to do art projects?” I was struggling trying to figure out what we could do until our paper arrived.

My husband had ‘kindly’ pointed out that I hadn’t done art for quite a while [like I missed that fact :/ ] so my reply was ‘I’m waiting for the construction paper to come before we can do anything’. Without missing a beat my husband looks at me and says ‘Doing art doesn’t necessarily have to mean creating something out of paper’.

That got me thinking because IT IS SO TRUE!!! I’ve done stuff in the kitchen with my daughter and outside with her but it never crossed my mind when I didn’t have the typical resources accessible to me to do it again!

‘Art’ is such a loose term when it comes to doing things with kids. I personally believe that anything a child can do hands on and explore could be considered ‘art’. I know this thought has escaped me lately and I’m sure I am not the only one. Are you trapped in the box too??

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February 27, 2012

Karla’s Korner: Food for Thought..

I am proud to introduce a new column to Madame Deals! I think we all need a touch point a place we can go to be inspired. Karla is my children’s teacher, a good friend, and a person with a heart of gold. I hope that her words will inspire you to do more. We are only as good as the people we surround ourselves with. It is important to listen with your heart and proceed with your eyes open. Enjoy!

Food for Thought…

I have been struggling lately with the idea of getting older and no longer having little people in my house. Questions like did I do enough or did I do too much rattle around in my head quite often. Being addicted to food I realize that one of my quick fix answers to my children’s problems was feed them; after all food always made me feel better so why wouldn’t it do the same for them? I can remember packing their lunches for school in the early years and always sticking in a little something extra; you know just in case. Looking back I wonder just what was I thinking. Nearly 19 years of parenting I realize that parents today struggle with the same issues.

Being a teacher, I am witness to some of the “just in case” items in lunch boxes. And while I am not trying to point a finger at anyone or questioning anyone’s judgment on what should or should not fill a young child’s lunch box, I would like to share some observations from my side of the lunch table.

1. Just because the label says yogurt does not mean it’s a good choice. Did you know that each 3.1 ounce drinkable yogurt cup contains 3 tablespoons of sugar? I nearly fell out of my chair when I made this discovery after noticing a change in behavior in students who consumed these sweet concoctions.

2. Juice boxes are not necessarily a good lunchbox staple. Most juice box/pouches contain a lot of additives and red dyes which can and will cause unsettling reactions in children and their behavior. Flavored water or plain water is an excellent choice for young children. I suggest sending a special leak proof cup that can be refilled from the water fountain. Not only does the child stay hydrated, you the parent will save money by not purchasing unhealthy sugary drinks.

3. Fresh fruit is always better than fruit type gummy snacks or roll ups. Gummy or rolled fruit is sticky, full of extra additives and does very little for a young persons body. Fresh fruit contains essential vitamins and minerals that will not only fill a child’s tummy but will aid in healthy digestion. Believe it or not there are young children who have never eaten a piece of fresh fruit.

4. Homemade lunch kits are not only less expensive than store bought ones, they are more pleasing to small children. Ask your child to help shop for what he/she would like to eat and allow them to help assemble it. This encourages them to learn to make wise food choices and ensure they will like what they eat.

5. Lunch does not have to be a sandwich and chips. Kids love variety. At 44 years old I am not a fan of sandwiches and could not imagine eating one every single day of the week. Once again variety is good and fresh is always better. Ham and cheese rolled up without bread is a great alternative as are bagels with cream cheese or jelly.

6. Leftovers are great lunchbox choices and can be kept warm in a good quality insulated food container. By preparing a little extra for dinner the night before and a quick heat up in the morning will ensure that your child will be getting a home cooked meal at school.

7. Candy should never be sent to school in the lunch box. The extra sugar is not necessary and can trigger swings in a child’s behavior.

8. Fresh vegetables are a great lunchbox staple for young children. A small container with carrots, celery, broccoli cucumbers or green peppers can not only fuel your child’s body but will teach them to make wise food choices when they are older. Ranch dressing or dip for the vegetables is also a fun way to encourage vegetable consumption.

9. Small quantities of a variety of food items are best. Young children tend to be “nibblers” and can sometimes feel overwhelmed with large amounts of food and will decrease the amount of food your child is throwing away.

10. Breakfast comes first…start your child off with a healthy breakfast that will keep him/her going strong in the morning. If you do not have time to cook breakfast (I know I don’t), make sure you’re hold has healthy choices to pick from to give them a positive start to their day. There are no rules that say you cannot have a ham and cheese sandwich, slice of cold cheese pizza, or tuna fish on toast for breakfast.

Teaching our children early on that food should be used to fuel our bodies and not as a reward or substitute for something will be one of the greatest life lessons you could ever teach. Ultimately the choice is yours, however I encourage you to think of the old saying “garbage in garbage out” when dealing with feeding your children and yourself. Filling your body with the right fuel will keep your motor running and in good shape; after all unlike a car we cannot trade our bodies in on a new model.


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February 25, 2012

No Boobs at Breakfast

There is a time a place for your breast to be exposed. The time is when you are not at a business conference while people are eating. I understand your child needs to eat.  In fact, I fed my children the same way. The difference is my boob was not hanging out at breakfast or at any meal. It is both inappropriate and unprofessional to expose yourself in a public place during a business event. The place for feeding your child is anywhere with proper cover. I believe your breasts are a personal thing and I do not wish to see them.  You can call me a prude but I do believe that as a professional you need to act as such and your boob belongs under your shirt. I hope I can stomach my meal now and enjoy Blissdom.


Ask a Nurse: For such a time as this

Pamela is an RN, MSN/Ed.

Pamela is a mother of 6 amazing children ages 11 to 24. She is a nurse educator and loves to travel overseas to work in medical clinics and teach health-related topics to schools and communities. She has been married to her best friend, Steve, for 29 years. She has many different interests including reading, writing (NOT arithmetic!), baking, teaching, and spending time with her family. She lives in central Pennsylvania with her husband and two youngest daughters.

For such a time as this

I have always loved the story of Esther in the Bible. Esther was a Jewish young woman who was chosen to be Queen. Though Esther was a Jew she was taken as the wife of the king of the Medes and Persians. This king had a minister in his court named Haman who devised a plot to eliminate the Jews. Esther’s uncle, Mordecai, learned of the plot and told Esther to talk with the king about the wicked plan. Though Esther was the queen, she needed to request an audience of the king just like anyone else would. To enter the king’s presence without an invitation could get Esther killed.

Mordecai said that Esther was brought to the position she had “for such a time as this.” Esther responded that she would stand up for her people even if it meant death. She was successful in saving the Jewish people from annihilation. I have wondered at times if I am missing my purpose in this life. Every so often, I have thought, “is this ‘such a time’ in my life?”

I am at that place right now.

I have been busy living my life as mother, wife, nursing instructor, and writer. I was fairly content and had just begun to make plans for some more medical mission trips. I was scheduled to go to Tajikistan for a nurse education trip, Peru for medical missions, and was taking the first steps toward planning to move to Ecuador for a 10 month medical mission trip with my husband and youngest daughter.

Well, my plans are on hold. As I write this, I am sitting in my living room, slumped on my couch, sleep-deprived and achy. In my “former” family room, there is no longer a couch and coffee table. In their place is a hospital bed where my great Aunt is currently sleeping. A wheelchair and bedside commode are taking up space where only last week we ate pizza and watched movies. The piano bench has medical supplies and instant hand sanitizer taking up space next to sheet music.

I do not know how long things will be this way. I do not know when I will take another mission trip (or even another shower, at this point!). Everyone thinks I know what I am doing, because I have been a nurse for 27 years. I don’t think I know what I am doing, but I am sure I am doing (or trying to do) what my family and I are supposed to be doing right now. I think my background as a nurse gave me an idea of the commitment involved in caring for someone full time, but nothing can really prepare you until you live it.

My dear Aunt has no husband, siblings, or children. She lived 8 hours away by car. I am only 3 days into caring for her, and it has really made me think about elderly people who live alone. I am going to share some of my scattered thoughts and then try to catch a few winks before she needs me.

  • If you have an elderly family member or neighbor, make an effort to check up on them. Bring them some of a meal you make for your family, better yet, ask them to join you! My Aunt fell in her bathroom, and was trapped for 16 hours before the police rescued her. She began to rapidly decline after that.
  •  As much as possible, allow the elderly to finish their sentences in their own time, let them take their time to do things before you jump in and do it for them. I offer to cut my Aunt’s food, but she really wants to at least try to cut it by herself. She speaks much slower now, but still has a lot to say. I think many older people are cut off before they can finish a complete sentence, because we are too impatient.
  •  Elderly people love to talk about the past, let them. I am enjoying learning some things I never knew about our family, I guess we never thought to ask.
  • If you are a caregiver, let your loved one make some decisions, however small. It may not seem like a big deal to you to let them choose what color socks to wear, or when to eat breakfast, but making choices helps the elderly maintain dignity.
  • Some things I only knew from being a nurse are to not call adult diapers, “adult diapers”. We just call them “Depends” like the brand name, but it is another dignity issue. In nursing homes we call adult bibs, “clothing protectors,” for the same reason.
  •  Use a gentle touch. Elderly people have fragile skin that tears easily, which is not only painful, but can be a source for infection to develop. In the same way, be gentle with hugs and assisting them to move. They may have arthritis or other painful conditions.
  • If they are able to, give them a task to do. Contributing to the family in even very small ways helps them feel useful and needed. Folding clothes (while sitting at a table) or wiping off a countertop does not take a lot of effort; find something for them to do.
  • Above all, love them! Tell them you love them, kiss them good-night, and give them gentle hugs! When you see the sparkle in their eyes you will realize how much they need your signs of affection!

I know this article may not flow well, I hope that I will be able to crank one out each week while I adjust to my new job. Try to think about any older people you know, including family. Do they need help? Do they feel loved and appreciated? What can you do to help? Who knows, this may be your “such a time,” too.

Be Well,


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