Life Changing Love Story

Life Changing Love Story

life changing love story

   I often wonder if you are a part of your experiences or are experiences part of what makes you whole? I haven’t ever shared this because some of me wonders if it really happened. I do believe in the other world and I do believe in signs so I guess I question the existence of the event. This life changing experience happened two winters ago. I often have moments of struggle. I struggle with staying home. I often can’t stand it. I stay home because that was the decision my husband and I made a long time ago. I stay home because it really is the best option for our family based on my husband’s career and the needs of our three kids. I have also built my own business and have an amazing team of people that count on me and I count on them. I still struggle because my heart is still in the classroom and I miss kids with special needs.

I was having one of those days when everything was broken. I burnt breakfast trying to find a lunch box that didn’t make it inside. I finally made another breakfast only to have it dropped on the floor and somehow stepped on. I attempted to get three children out the door with their things in some sort of order. I looked at them and wanted to cry. I love my children but sometimes my best efforts do not yield children that look clean or cared for. They had all taken showers, lovingly had their hair dried, clothes picked out, and breakfast cooked twice. They looked as though they went to war and the oatmeal won. I decided to just send them battered by oatmeal to school. The thought of adding nine more items to the laundry and starting all over again would have broken me that day. I had deadlines due for my other job and my own business. I had oatmeal in places I didn’t think possible in my kitchen and I hadn’t eaten a bite.

I dropped my children off at school. I had a moment of peace. I stayed in my car and enjoyed the moment and then my emails starting beeping. It was back to life. I drove home. I grabbed what was once a warm piece of toast which I dipped in the half eaten “second attempt at breakfast “oatmeal and I started to cry. I just never imagined my life would be trying to get oatmeal off of walls, kids, and out of clothing. I got a text from my husband that we would be home late some client was in town without notice. Oh! Awesome! That was just what I needed since I had scheduled meetings knowing he gets home at 6:30 for 7:00 pm. I grabbed my laptop and turned on Facebook.

I started reading about all my friends lives. I decided they were lying and just “Facebooking” half truths. There was no way that their children were clean, arrived to school on time, and their houses were clean. I then opened up my business email and began to work help desk tickets while checking my own businesses emails. It is amazing how efficient you become while waiting for software to load. I plowed through 45 minutes of work. Then I heard a knock on my door. I assumed it was the UPS delivery person since I receive packages all the time. It wasn’t.

It was an older man with missing teeth a white shirt, jeans with tears, and a brown woven belt. I just looked at him. I live on a hill you just do not happen upon my house. You do not just climb the hill because. I had no idea who this man was. I just stared. He asked me if I had any work for him. I had tons of work there was oatmeal all over the place. I couldn’t invite him into clean my house. I was upset but not crazy. We chatted as I grabbed my alarm button key ring. He told me he lost his job and he needed money. He said he was willing to do anything to earn money for his family. I felt the same way that day. I felt like I was willing to do anything for my family. I was staying home and working two jobs, so I understood. I made up a job wondering where I was going to get the money to pay this man. I never have cash. I asked him to look in the yard and pick up all the toys and any trash. I would pay him for the hour. I found out he needed $10. I turned off my cell phone and shut down my laptops and I began looking all over the house for money. I gave all of the money I had to my children for book orders and a field trip. I then remembered I had emergency money in the car. I went down in the garage and I took out the $20 I had.

The man came back to my door with in the  hour with a bag of toys and a bag of trash. I asked if he needed a drink or if I could make him lunch. He told me, “He needed to get home to his wife.” I asked. “Do you live around here.” He said, “In the County.” We chatted a little bit more. I then had the nerve to ask him,” Why did you just need $10.” What he said really changed my life. He said, ” I promised my wife when we got married I would love her to the day I died. I promised her I would do everything in my power to make sure I provided food for our children. I lost my job and I wasn’t able to do that today until I came to your house.” He went on to say the $10 would provide three meals for his family and tomorrow he would try to find a job. He just knew he had to do something to make sure he didn’t break “his promise.” I gave him the $20 I had his emergency was far greater than mine and I told him now he has an extra day to find a job. He thanked me and told me he had several job interviews.

I am still not sure who sent this man up my hill. I do know why. I was having a day of feeling sorry for myself. A day when oatmeal all over the place was a crisis. I was looking at what was wrong and not what was right. I was forgetting that work is a means to an end it isn’t what defines us. I forgot how special my kids were and only what it took to get them from place A to place B. I forgot that my husband was at work from 6:30 Am until 8:00 PM that night so that we could pay for our house, our children, and our future. I forgot about the promises I made a long time ago which was to do what it takes in my relationships with my husband and my children. I am sure my children’s teachers will tell you they are normally covered with food and their bags and homework are a mess. I decided on that day to enjoy my children and my family and not worry about how things look. I decided to do what it takes and to honor the promise I made to my husband and now my children. I decided that if he could walk up a hill to  a strangers house to ask for help so he could provide for his family. Then I could also do what it takes to provide for my family. I sat down with my husband that night and really told him how all of this felt to me and what changes we needed to make for me to be able to do more than survive. I believe that man came to my house so I that I would begin the conversation that would change the way things are done around here.

I do believe people come into your life to teach you a lesson. It is up to you to do something with that lesson. Ask yourself why did I name this post the Life Changing Love lesson?




Comments

  1. Miranda A. says

    this is so inspiring and well written. it had me in tears. sometimes it’s hard to look past appearances and see the struggles. I have been through a lot of hard stuff and still I judge. Thank you for this. It really means a lot to know that I’m not the only one making something huge out of something small.

  2. says

    I GUESS YOUR STORY WAS ALSO I CRIED BECAUSE I HAD NO SHOES TILL I MET A MAN WITH NO FEET. I TOO HAVING BEEN GOING THRU ALOT. I HAVE A HEART CONDITION THAT THEY SAY I WILL RECOVER FROM BUT IT WILL TAKE YEARS. ALL I CAN DO IS REST, TAKE MEDS & SLEEP. AFTER THE FIRST 3 MONTHS NOTHING HAD CHANGED & I HAD TO WAIT ANOTHER 3 MONTHS FOR THE NEXT TEST. THEN IM TOLD I HAVE TO TAKE DISABILITY BUT THE INS COMPANY WILL FIGHT FOR ME. IM 62 BUT I REALLY WASNT PLANNING ON THIS YET. I FELT LIKE HELL. HAD JUST BEEN THRU 2 BAD YEARS OF ALMOST LOSING MY RIGHT ARM & THEN LOSING MY BELOVED FATHER. SO I DIDNT NEED ANY STUFF ON MY PLATE BEFORE I BUSTED. WELL AT 6 MONTHS I HADTHE NEXT TEST TAKEN BUT HAD TO WAIT TILL AFTER CHRISTMAS TO FIND UT. WE HAD IT HERE AT MY HOUSE & MY STEPMOM CAME DOWN FROM WISC. IT WAS HARD TO GET READY FOR IT BECAUSE I CAN DO SO LITTLE AT ONE TIME BUT I DID IT & EVERYONE WAS THANKFUL WE WERE ALL TOGETHER. 2 DAYS LATER THE RESULTS ARE IN & I HAVE IMPROVED. NOT MUCH BUT SOME. YAY. WE ALL HAVE OUT LIFE CHANGING MOMENTS I DONT WANT ANYMORE OK
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  3. rayraycartucci says

    This reminds me of myself. Great story. I like the way my relationship is now with my husband. Thanks for your story

  4. KELLY MCGREW says

    wow. very beautiful story. i too believe that people come into your life or affect your life for a reason; at the time that we need them to.

  5. Melanie W. says

    Isn’t it amazing how when we’re having “one of those days” something happens and our whole point of view is turned around?

  6. Laurie Nykaza says

    It was wonderful to read this story and it really puts life into perspective. We may be having a hard time but so are others as well. So happy you would help him out too.

  7. melisa says

    I too, have had situations like that happen out of nowhere, sometimes at the most inopportune times. I’ve learned it’s better to welcome them into my crazy busy days in which the demands seem to take the place of my heart set priorities, sometimes our hearts just need a little readjusting. Thanks for sharing!

  8. Carla W says

    Hi, Wow, loved your story. Just looking at the first line in your story. I believe your experiences make you who you are. They teach you and help you grow from them.
    I understand the post being called “Life Changing Love Lesson”.
    You realized the little problems here and there that come and go are not big deals and they really don’t matter much. What matters most are the people you love and that love you back..
    Beautiful story and I bet that older man was meant to knock on your door that day. I do believe that some things that are just meant to be.

  9. Diana C says

    I think you named it that because life should be lived with love and not only in survival. You realized that you needed to have a conversation with your husband about what you were going through. It is important to do that, a check in is what I call it. My husband and I are working through some planning now. He works and it has been hard for me to find work but we manage. It is so easy to get swept up in problems and not see the gifts we do have, thank you for reminding me.

  10. Amanda Stovall says

    What a great story, thanks for sharing! And I absolutely believe that we are placed in certain situations in life in order to open up our perspectives or to learn something. We are not always wise enough or ready to see what’s right in front of our eyes, though. But, in your story, you most definitely saw and learned the intended lesson, which is why you’ve titled the piece as such! Wish there were more people like you in this world wise enough to see, LOVING & caring enough to give to those in need, and willing enough to SHARE this beautiful story! :)

  11. Ronda Walton says

    They say that when we give to others we are actually giving mire to ourselves, making us appreciate what we have. You did the right thing.

  12. Suzanne says

    I needed to hear a story like this today! It’s been one of those days for me as well. Everyone needs a reminder occasionally to appreciate the good things in our life.

  13. Angela says

    what a beautiful story. we have all had days like that.. i always try to remember to try and be grateful for what i do have because there are many people with situations much harder than mine. it was really nice of you to help that man out.. not everyone would do that.

  14. Jessica Fortner says

    Experiences like that certainly help put things in perspective for us. I go out once a month and hit the streets in the very worst parts of town and feed the homeless, give them clothes and just love on them. It hurts my heart even worse when I see dirty children with no shoes at all and women out there living in tents under the freeway overpass. It makes you feel so very blessed for what you have. When I think I’m having a pretty rotten day my mind trails back to the lost and fallen people of the streets and then I look at the big picture again.

  15. Sarah Hoffman says

    That was very to my heart to Thank you for sharing this with us all. What it takes for one person to change the way we feel and the way we are is a very nice life lesson that all of us have gone though in one way or another.. Thank you again. I think you named it Life Changing Love Lesson cause it changed how you viewed you life and your relationship with your husband and kids..

  16. Tee Vaping Williams says

    I BELIEVE THE SAME THING…EVERYBODY COMES INTO YOUR LIFE TO FULFILL SOMETHING THERE…WHETHER IT IS FOR A SHORT TIME, OR FOREVER, THEY ALL SERVE A PURPOSE.

  17. Sandra Hingst says

    I loved your story. It is a great reminder for all of us when we get too caught up in the busyness of life.

  18. Hannah Pelletier says

    That is a wonderful story and made me warm and fuzzy :) you really know how to teach valuable lessons. That really inspired me :)

  19. Melanie Ivie says

    That’s a truly touching story! I’m grateful you had the heart and didn’t turn him away like most people would do.

  20. Carissa Joslyn says

    It’s amazing what The world throws at us. Unfortunately, knowing me I’d assume he was there to kill me (I don’t know about where you live, but there are far to many murders where I live) Although, I base everything about people off of Vibes I get from them. Anywhere from people I’m friends with, to people I date, if they have good vibes, i put my trust in them.

    • dawn f says

      I felt the same when i read that..only my vibes as far as men to date are off, my other vibes work properly, especially the ones that would affecr my son, those ive honed to a fine point!

  21. dawn f says

    you sound like the kind of teacher my child whose special and others need , Im having one of those years so far where im breaking, or broken. not lunches, but my child hard time in school (cpl hold *smh*), loss of a family member to cancer, loss of a job months ago, stuck at home trying to find my way out when really im still grieving for everything, my son getting teased, even in his special SCHOOL, , the death of family, jpb and metaphorically me!!

  22. Jessica Whitehouse says

    I am a stay-at-home- mom of 3. I’ve had those days, more than I care to admit. My husband works more than 50 miles away because it’s the only job he can find. I walk everywhere because we only have one vehicle. We do the best we can with what we have. But the bills are paid and the kids fed- I’m constantly reminded that there are many people worse off than we are, and I count my blessings.

  23. Jill D. says

    This just proves not to judge a book by it’s cover. People from all walks of life need work and are good people too!

  24. Shari says

    Enjoyed reading this story. I also believe people come into your life for a reason, regardless of how much time you spend with the individual.

  25. Raye W says

    Sometimes it takes an unexpected jolt to remind us what our blessings truly are, and what we need to do to live our ‘true’ lives. Sometimes when we help others, it changes our lives and thoughts far more than it does theirs. Someone was sending you a message at the right time and place.

  26. Monica Kirkham says

    I really don’t know what to say to this… I’m at a loss for words.. Mainly because, up to this very moment… I was having one of “those” days. Thanks for opening my eyes to all I have in my life to be thankful for!

  27. says

    What a wonderful inspiring story. How nice to realize what we have and that sometimes we take for granted the love and the p[eople in our lives. The man in the story was s lesson we should all learn and pass on

  28. K. Finn says

    My fiance died from cancer after just having turned 33. As horrible as that was for me, I have worked for refugees who have lost 40 members of their family, such as from the Rwandan genocide. Even though, I still have days where I feel sorry for myself, there is always someone who had it worst than me.

  29. Pam H. says

    I do believe people are sent into our lives for a reason. I am disabled and often have times of feeling sorry for myself. Not long after, I will see a person or hear of a person who has it so much harder than myself.

  30. celina k says

    What a great story, and experience I am sure. It’s too easy to fall into the ‘poor me’ phase..for all of us. Sometimes it takes an experience like this to truly understand how lucky we are.

  31. Mary M. says

    Very touching story. Each of us has a “story” some happy some sad and encouraging others has it own reward.

    • Ronda Patrick says

      This gives you more appreciation for the simpler things in life that most people take for granted, thanks for sharing it!

  32. addrienne mertens says

    thats a really nice story.. its too bad all this bad stuff is happening to good Americans.. it didnt have to be like this.. we all are being taught a lesson..who will listen? only time will tell.. open your eyes to everything going on.. ur being lied to, and not many seem to see that. how many chances will we give?

  33. Brenda Elsner says

    I do believe that people come into our lives for a reason. I have had many come and go and always learned some kind of small life lesson. I too have had my struggles trying to raise 3 kids alone. It’s been a long hard road, but we have managed to make it, so far. Thank you for sharing your story.

  34. Janette Polivka says

    That is beautiful, and I thank you for sharing. I too believe that every single person passes our path for a reason. To teach us or to even possible to teach them, or be an inspiration. I believe in helping one another as that is how it should be and I just wish that there were more people like you..like this, in our world today..especially a world with our children growing up in.

  35. christina m givens says

    That’s a really beautiful story. It’s so easy to get buried under life’s little emergencies that we often forget what a true crisis is. It’s sad that this man was in such a terrible way, but wonderful that his willingness to keep trying was able to impact 2 people so profoundly.

  36. Pauline Milner says

    Thank you for this inspiring story. The world needs plenty more stories like this. Please keep up the terrific blogging.

  37. Heather Swarthout says

    That is an amazing and very beautiful story. You never know what God may send your way knowing you’re having a very difficult time. I have had many times when I want to break down and just ask “Why?” but somehow something happens and either I run into someone in public that makes me remember who I am and what I do have and appreciate everything for what it is. We all get caught up in the ways of life and those little moments that happen even with the man on your doorstep kind of snaps you back into place to remember the little and big things that matter in your life.

  38. says

    my life changing love story was in 1985 , I left my boyfriend of 3 years thinking he would never marry me, I went to Concord nh where my mom lived to live with her, I met another guy same name David we hit it off, but he wasn’t sure I was over david in florida where I was born and raised and he was calling begging me, saying he would change and was sad. So I came back, the david in NH fell in LOVE he said missing me too. he begged me back too. I wnet back and he clew it by hsome girl walking in on us in what I thought was MY ne home and bedroom, she wanted to TALk, he said come on taking you to your moms, I cussed him the whole hour drive what did she want, who is she how dare she etc…………., Well after 2 weeks of no calls , no shows, david from fl. called on july 3rd, and said coming to get you, I said ok, he got there the next day in a 1968 chevy chevelle, no tags, but when he did we talked I tld him how I felt after 3 years and he he asked me to marry him, I said well I’m not going back unless we marry, we eloped the nest day July 5th. My mom was out of town , but came home that night and we told her. We drove back to kiss. florida that weekend , and before the month was over I was pregnant with our oldest daughter. 28 1/2 years we have 2 daughter’s and 2 gorgeous granddaughter’s. David from NH started calling like a mad man, but never spoke to him or got an explanantion after his heart felt BS , begging be back up there. I wouldn’t change what we have for nothing. Even all our problems any marriage has. That’s our LOVE story and this march 32 years together <3. David and Theresa harris.

  39. Barb Stenby says

    I believe people come into our lives at different times to wake us up. It has happened to me many times before. I think it is a higher power letting us know things. Maybe he was sent to you maybe not but it changed you. I LOVE it!

  40. Nicole Carter says

  41. susan smoaks says

    i agree that God puts certain people in our lives to help us learn and grow. we can always find something to be thankful for and we can always help others.

  42. Elizabeth Hummel says

    I do not think you were having a day of feeling sorry for yourself, I think you were just a little stressed. It is hard dealing with little people that cannot fully take care of themselves and sometimes just do not understand. It is great that this man helped you remember to appreciate everything you have in your life and it is nice that you were able to help out your fellow man.

  43. Vikki Billings says

    What a wonderful love story, this reaffirms my thoughts that there is someone for everyone and one way or another you will be together.

  44. Vicki D. says

    That story was really touching. We should all appreciate what we have more than we do. We shouldn’t sweat the small things so much. Finally, we should be thankful for what we have and who we have in our lives.

  45. Janice Cooper says

    Wow your story brought tears to my eyes. This is sooo sooo true. People come into our life for a reason and a season. We often think our life is so hard and so bad until we see or hear what other people are going through. It always makes you appreciate what you have and count your blessings!

  46. Julie Simpson says

    Now that i have started the second chapter of my life or so people keep telling me on my 50th bday a couple weeks ago, I have been married 17 years in the trenches, my kids are grown and I am figuring out what kind of man I want to spend the rest of my life with. Thanks for the insight

  47. PATRICIA BOOTH says

    Had a very short courtship, met on March 4, engaged April 19 and married July 2, 1980. Yes barely 4 months,. We knew and he had his vacation already scheduled so it was our honeymoon. We had my son 9 months later then 22 months after that came my daughter. A very crazy first 3 years of marriage. But it is now 33 years later and we are still as much in love.

  48. Joyce Harrell says

    I love reading these caring and giving stories. They really warm the heart and make you realize how wonderful and good your life really is. A job well done!

  49. Melissa Marinho says

    I love reading stories like this. I believe you called it Life Changing Love Lesson because the man was willing to do anything for the family he loves. It was probably extremely hard for him to ask for help, but he did. This happening on a day you were struggling was definitely meant to be. Things do happen for a reason, I whole heartedly believe this! Thank you for sharing your story. It is a beautiful one.

  50. says

    Wow, what a great story… one of those things that makes you believe that sometimes things really do happen for a reason. Sometimes we need a gentle reminder about what’s important in life; a reminder to focus on the positive and make positive changes to improve the things that are truly important. I wonder if that man knows how many lives he may have positively influenced (by virtue of you sharing this story)?
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  51. Kristin Welch says

    Oh my goodness, I love love love this story! I truly believe that people come into your life for a reason but not everyone sees those reasons or learns from them. I love that you had the desire and openness to learn from this man and his devotion to his family. It takes a strong person to admit when what you’re doing may not be the best and that there are better ways to handle things or a better way to enjoy life around you; I commend you for that! And I love life lessons such as these, with my faith, I believe that God sends people in our paths to remind us of our blessings! :)

  52. Wanda McHenry says

    My story isn’t as in depth, but my husband was sent from God. I was in a horrible lonely place and now my life is whole.

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