Karla’s Korner: Why Not Me?
Why Not Me?
I heard a story about a young boy who was in a car accident this past week; he’s just sixteen and new to the road. The accident was bad enough to stop traffic; no one could get in or out. While some would say as luck would have it his uncle was a few cars back and was able to go to him and help with the scary situation. To me, there’s no question that the uncle was where he was meant to be; luck had nothing to do with it. I believe that we are where we are at any given time going through what we are going through because we are supposed to be. I believe that whatever the situation, good or not so good we are there for a reason, that God has a plan and while we find it difficult to understand we must trust and ask “why not me” instead of “why me?”
Ralph S. Marston, Jr, publisher of The Daily Motivator wrote in a post titled “Allow the Meaning” “Instead of striving to invent some grand purpose, accept that there is a grand purpose and go with it. Rather than making judgments about the meaning of whatever you’re experiencing, simply be thankful to be experiencing it. There is great meaning to be found and felt in the living of each moment. See that life, in whatever form it takes, in whatever circumstance it exists, has profound and intrinsic meaning.”
A close friend has struggled with Parkinson’s disease for many years. She is in her 70’s and never complains about the effects of her illness; memory loss, poor balance to name a few. Early in our friendship she shared with me that she is thankful for the struggle for several reasons one being that if she has it someone else doesn’t. I asked her once if she ever got angry at God for allowing her to struggle the way she does. She said that there was no need to be angry that being angry is a waste of time and there are others who have it tougher than she does. “I wake up every morning and thank God for allowing me one more day to enjoy life” she says. She embraces the struggles as part of her journey, never asking “why me?” only giving thanks that it’s not someone else. Her faith allows her endure, accept and live graciously and say “why not me?” She says that she is going through what she’s supposed to and that she is grateful for each day she has to live.
What if instead of cowering under the weight of life’s challenges we made an effort to accept them and learn to as Marston says “go with it”? What if instead of feeling sorry for ourselves we use our energy to embrace, endure and accept each day as a gift. Admitting that I suck at staying positive all the time and that I do sit on the pity pot on occasion my friend reminds me that it’s not always about me. As a matter of fact she reminded me once that when we ask the question “why me?” we are in fact implying that we are superior or more important than someone else. Why should I think that only good things should happen to me? Why should I think that I don’t deserve heart ache, sadness and disappointment? We are where we are on purpose; there are no coincidences. Learning to accept circumstances instead of constantly trying to change them and asking “why me” all the time will I believe bring about peace and happiness in our lives. Nothing stays the same anyway so why fight it?
This week I encourage you to dig deep down into your soul, accept the struggles as an opportunity to deepen your faith learn a life lesson and become an example for those around you. As Marston states in his post, “Let life be meaningful, for it is, and will be, no matter what. Allow the meaning, and enjoy the ride.” Stop asking “why me?” because none of us are invincible, none of us are superior to anyone else. Instead ask “why not me?” and use your experience to benefit others.
I think we all need a touch point a place we can go to be inspired. Karla is my children’s teacher, a good friend, and a person with a heart of gold. I hope that her words will inspire you to do more. We are only as good as the people we surround ourselves with. It is important to listen with your heart and proceed with your eyes open. Enjoy!
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