I Love You Because

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    I Love you Because

In our fast paced world we often forget to let the people we love know how much they mean. We remember when someone is sick or has a special event. The rest of the days pass without much mention of love. We think they already “know” how we feel. They must we put in hours of hard work. We rearrange our schedules. We haven’t really slept in years because we are thinking about or taking care of those that we love. We are forgetting one important step and necessity in our ability to take care of others. We are forgetting to tell them why we love them.

We are forgetting to say more than I Love You. What does that really mean? Is it tangible? What is it about them that you love? In our home the little I love you because game started with a simple question. Why? Why do you love me? It stopped me in my tracks. All these years I thought they knew. I cuddle every morning and kiss them so often I have to wear stay put lipstick or they would look bruised. I make their breakfast, shower them, dress them, sing to them, smile at them, and tell them that I love them. I did however leave out the why. I no longer do that. I tell my children the “because”. I love you because you use your kind heart. I love you because you help others. I love you because you always giggle when you tell a joke. I love you because your hugs are amazing. I love you because you are a good son or daughter. I love you because you try your best and do not give up. I love you because you make choices that help you to grow and learn about others. I love you because you smile at everyone. I love you because you always ask the strangers I talk to their name. I love you because you are always laughing and singing. I love you because you are the children I hoped for and you are more incredible than I could have ever imagined. I love you because you are you.

I thought my I love you because worked so well with my children that I applied what I learned to my relationship with my husband. I try every couple of days to text my husband something nice. I am trying to be purposeful in my declarations. I am trying to give more feedback because I love them for a million reasons and I have my lifetime to tell them all about it.

This is one of the greatest lesson I learned last year what was yours?

Comments

  1. A Ross says

    I think this is a great reminder to be concrete in our encouragement. I know I often need to do this more. I feel a little weird about making love sound conditional, though. One of my children has bonding issues and she has asked me a few times why I love her. I always tell her it is because she is a gift of God. I don’t want to tell her it is because she is kind (for she’s not always kind), or because she didn’t give up at her math this morning (because sometimes she will) or even because she is funny, full of energy and athletic (which is probably always) because I don’t love her for what she does or who she is, I love her unconditionally by choice. She is sometimes pretty unlikeable, but that doesn’t matter to love. Love is hard to pin down but as necessary as air. If it has to be because than maybe “just because.”

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