Is My Child Spoiled?


Is My Child Spoiled?



This week my daughter turned 6 and as I was going over birthday plans and presents I had to ask myself, is my child spoiled? Does my child have nice things? Yes! Do I know how to say NO to her? Most of the time, yeah I do. My daughter is an only child, as am I and my husband. We get teased a lot about “only child syndrome”, and how we were the center of our parents world, and our daughter is the same to us. Well that would be true…she is the center of our world, is something wrong with that?? 

I think there is a big difference between a child being “spoiled” and a child being a “spoiled brat”. My daughter is just as excited about a toy from the Dollar Tree, as she is with a $100 American Girl Doll (which for the record, she doesn’t have). So I know my child is not a “spoiled brat”. But I still have to wonder, is my child spoiled? I thought maybe writing it down and being able to look at it might help me answer that question.

Is it so wrong to be spoiled as a child anyways?



Let’s see, not only is my my child an only child, but she is also an only niece,  grandchild, and great grandchild (we have a small family). So needless to say, during the holidays my daughter does get quite a big haul of gifts. For an example, this year for her Birthday she received some small gifts (barbies, DS games, play make up, etc) and she also got tickets to see her favorite artist, Katy Perry, which were almost $500. She also will be having a day of shopping at the mall to pick out her own gifts,a visit to  a fun themed restaurant we have locally, and a day at the spa. For her last birthday she received a trip to Disney World. Does that make her spoiled? I don’t think it does. So friends have “joked” and said that it was, but are they joking? It’s hard to tell sometimes. My daughter does have a lot of toys, but she is also very giving and sweet. Every Birthday and Christmas we sit down together and go through all of her toys and pick out toys to donate to other kids. She also does daily chores and hardly ever gets upset if I tell her she can’t have things.

So maybe being spoiled is about how you act, not what you possess?

I will never argue that my child has a lot of possessions, the fact that she has a play room in addition to her regular room, both filled with toys, shows that. But I don’t think my child acts spoiled, which is more important to me than those people that just assume she is due to what she owns. We are not rich by any means, but my child does not go without, and neither do we. We cut corners where we need to, saving money where we can, and don’t live beyond out means. So I guess now when I ask myself the question” is my child spoiled?” my answer is yes. She is spoiled by people who love her, but she is NOT a spoiled brat, so I think she will be just fine <3

Do you consider your child spoiled? Let us know in the comments below!


Also check out what Mrs.Madame Deals herself does to ensure her kids have a secure future:

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Why we said No to Disney World

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  1. Great points. I agree with you – it’s ok to spoil our children, but we need to teach them the value of work. I like to set goals and rewards for my kids. They know that they have to earn their reward, not everything they want is given to them!

  2. I totally agree just because a child has possessions doesn’t mean a child is spoiled. To me a child who has done without who has a sucky attitude is worse than a child who has things with a great attitude.

  3. Great post! It is so hard to find the balance of “spoiling” our kids and teaching them responsibility. I didn’t have a lot growing up, so I often find myself wanting to spoiling our children even more because of it.

  4. I come from a family of 5, 3 kids and I’m the oldest 🙁 aaand there’s a lot of space between my two brothers( yes I am the only girl) when I was 7 my brother come to take everything from me (including parents) but I could handle because I grew with my grand parents and I was the baby for them,when I move to my moms she spoil us both we were no poor no rich she was working and my stepdad was here in USA working so we have lot of good stuff(ahh still remember those Jordan shoes he gave me for my birthday) anyway, then suddenly when I was 18 and my brother was 11 my mom got prego(yes she was 35 by then) so the baby came and he is now spoiled brat because he have so many things that we couldn’t have no because we didn’t have the money but because my mom always said that we have to earn everything we ask for and we got!!! I have 3 kids I am not spoiler than my mom but I teach them they have to earn everything they have……mmmm I’m still mad at my brother he got a better Jordan shoes than mine!!!!

    • Yep. And I’m completely ok with that choice. She knows what is ok and not ok to do and/or say :). I saw thousands of other little girls there too :).

  5. I think that any child should “earn” the extras. I’m an only child as well but I wasn’t spoiled with material things. I got a lot of attention because I was one of two gradnchildren. My children are the only niece and nephew and also the only great grands and I have let my family know no matter what is given my children have to display certain behaviors in order to receive any new gifts and it’s all my discretion.

  6. This is hilarious! U Spend more on ur daughters gifts then my husband makes in a year I bet. She probably will never want for anything. But if she falls in love with a person who can’t support that lifestyle…will she be able to hack it? Money and gifts are not love…so I hope she is able to understand this. I’m not envious…lol…The opposite really…Once we attain are blessed better living…it will be much appreciated. And presents…we almost never give presents…maybe an homemade card…or a deed of service. We pay our bills and the kids have clean clothes and food and we love em. They may think they’re spoiled actually. ???? Kids are thankful for little things.

    • I’m glad you find it hilarious :). My child is just as happy with a homemade card as she is with a new barbie, so I don’t think we are setting her up in a certain “lifestyle” that other people couldn’t give her LOL. We are not rich by any means. But she is an only child, only grandchild, and only great grand child, so she does get presents, but she gets more love than anything 😉